I am leaving for a few weeks away. It is August after all, and enough is enough. I expect it may give me more time to scribble things here, or perhaps I will just calmly float away and not be disturbed by anything.
One word before I go. A lesson I learned a long time ago, continues to prove itself over and over.
Never ask a human a "why" question, especially about his/her own behavior. It's great in science to ask "why" of the world and the universe, but if you ask "why did you do that?" or really --"What the fuck were you thinking?!?! The answer you get will be meaningless, distorted and wrong.
It's the job of the therapist to figure out the motivations, causes, and conditions that precipitated the action. Then, together, you can figure out what to do, and how to make that happen.
Yes, it is often interesting to hear the reasons people think up to explain what they did. Sometimes the reasons are very clever, and can cover a lot of ground. But it's all in hindsight, and it's usually only to make the person feel good, or at least rational.
But we know better.
Now, why did I write all this?