Small Perspective

This is a note about how important it is as a therapist, or anyone really,  to understand the perspective of the person with whom you are interacting.  But actually, this is just a chance for me, as a grandfather, to boast.

The older of my two grandgirls is now22 months old.  She has been walking for a while and is now talking in sentences and some short paragraphs.  She is also so cute that it should be illegal, but that's me, and I hope every grandparent feels that way.

All summer she was walking around, and being at her level, which is pretty close to the ground, she began to notice that the feet of many people, especially the women, were exposed.  It was even more fascinating to her because most of their toes were painted in bright colors.  She was just learning to recognize which color was which, so she would walk around, point to the toes and say "red toes," or "pink toes."  She also seemed to be intrigued that toes came in different sizes, so she would point out everyone's big toe.  "Daddy's big toe."  Pop-Pop's big toe."

But now it is autumn.  People have stopped wearing sandals or flip-flops and have put their shoes back on.  My granddaughter seems to find this a bit confusing.  She was really enjoying checking out all those toes, and now they are gone.  Now she goes around, points at the shoes and say: " Pop-Pops foot hiding." "Nanny's foot, hiding."  This has generalized to other things, such as "belly button, hiding."

So, you see, if you took that out of context, you'd think she was strange.  But if you understand the perspective of the person, it can all make sense.


ALSO: on setting limits:

The other granddaughter just celebrated her first birthday.  Her uncle gave her a big red, blue, yellow and white clown as a present.  The clown is about twice her size, but she is in love.  She grabs the clown, shrieks, jumps on it, bites it, rolls on it, laughing and screaming with delight.

But I told my son, her father, that if she continues to spend her time with a clown like that, I'm not wasting money on her college education.  Someone has to point out what's good for her and not let her waste her life.  I've seen that happen too many times to not take action.