Thursday, June 02, 2011

a note in the chart

R still ends up doing more things for other people than she should.  Her extended family, her current significant other, her kids, his kids, her sister's kids,  have all learned that they can depend upon her too much.  She rallies and does things for them instead of herself.  It makes her feel good, needed and respected.  But it exhausts her, sometimes she knows that they take advantage of her when they should be learning to do things themselves.  It also takes away most of the energy she needs to move her own life forward.

2 comments:

Lena said...

So many have woman do this. So hard to watch. Good she is getting help. Hope she can learn to change.

Forsythia said...

I can relate to this.

On a very sad note, our daughter had a final appointment yesterday with an excellent therapist (well, he used to be) who, over the past 7 years, taught her to reframe her thinking and not to "awfulize" about every little thing.. He descended suddenly and very quickly into dementia, and yesterday, did not seem to remember that she had just one child, that they had been on the same page politically, and so much more. Their whole shared history was gone. What a loss!